Losing a pet is a profoundly emotional experience. The relationship we share with our furry friends goes beyond words; they become cherished members of our families whom we have the privilege of spending thousands of hours with. In fact, there are many positive physical and psychological health benefits to owning a pet, and so it’s understandable that our mental health can be so impacted after this significant loss. For example, some pet owners report experiencing symptoms of anxiety, depression, and trauma due to this loss. We hope this guide will help you navigate the complex emotions that arise during this difficult time.
Make Time for Your Feelings
Grieving your pet is a unique and personal experience. It’s crucial to recognize and accept the array of emotions you may be feeling, from sadness and loneliness to anger and guilt. There is no right or wrong way to grieve. Give yourself the time and space to acknowledge and allow all of your emotions without judgment. Take time to feel your feelings through journaling, reading passages on grief, talking to a trusted person in your life, being in nature, or creating art. Find what works best for you. Grief can feel like a wave, so recognize that grieving is a process that you may be moving through for several weeks, months or longer.
Create Memorials or Rituals
Honoring your pet’s life can be a therapeutic way to celebrate the joy, comfort and companionship you shared together. Consider creating a memorial, whether it’s a scrapbook of cherished moments, a planted tree in their memory, a piece of art or a framed photo of them in your home. You might also keep one of their favorite toys or collar if that feels helpful. Rituals can also help create a sense of continuity and closure. This could be as simple as lighting a candle on special anniversaries or holding a ceremony to say your final goodbye. Remembrances such as these can provide a tangible comfort and structure during a time when emotions may feel overwhelming.
Seek Support
During times of loss, it’s essential to lean on a support system. Share your feelings with trusted friends and family who understand the depth of the bond you had with your pet. You may benefit from scheduling some counseling sessions, or even attending a pet loss support group, or reading about pet loss online. Talking about your experiences with others who have gone through similar situations can provide a sense of understanding and connection.
Take Care of Yourself
Grieving can be physically and emotionally draining, so it’s crucial to prioritize self-care. Getting enough rest, maintaining your nutritional needs, and spending time in nature are all ways to support your emotional well-being. This may include taking time off of work or doing more activities that feel nurturing and comforting to you. It will also be important to create new routines or adjust routines you used to have with your pet to help fill the holes that remain in your life from this loss.
Pay It Forward
Service to others is a great way to nurture the pangs of sadness. Consider volunteering at a local animal shelter, fostering an animal, or doing a beautification project at a park your pet loved as a way to honor them and support others. You might consider donating some of your pet’s belongings to an animal shelter or a friend with a pet, which may bring comfort knowing you are helping others.
One of the most poignant definitions of grief I’ve ever come across states that “grief is love turned upside down.” Losing a pet is extremely painful, and it’s essential to remember that your grief is a testament to the depths of care and connection you shared. At Sage Wellness, we extend our heartfelt condolences for the loss of your beloved pet. By acknowledging your feelings, seeking support, and honoring your pet’s memory, you can navigate the grieving process with self compassion and resilience. Healing is not a linear process. In time, the warmth of cherished memories will prevail over the sting of loss. Wishing you comfort and peace.
Written by Sage Wellness counselor, Rebecca Hart in Gainesville Florida, 2025.